If we accept the premise that marriage promotes family, and that family's most vital for steering and stabilizing humanbeings as they work their way through a crazy thing called childhood, then how can we deprive children the comfort of eternally commited parents just because their parents are of the same sex.
I know most people who oppose gay marriage, also oppose gay couples adapting children, so there is not a disconnect in this sense. However, there is naturally a disconnect in that our opinions do not reality make. We live in a world in which we have decided that gay couples adapting children is preferable to children spiraling through a system in which there are too few adults willing to adapt them, willing to love them. Our moral opinions do not change the reality that there're children with families in which they are deprived the promise and stability marriage provides, because we think its our culture "slouching towards Gommorra."
We are not depriving gay couples of familyhood, we are depriving families of marriage.
